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Ask Jessica Sensual
Advice
Jessica Brant
is the author of Finding One's Way and the founder of Warrior Women. She is an advocate against domestic
abuse as well as sexual advice guru. She has helped many men and women from all walks of life and different ages about their sexual challenges
and concerns. She's also the Co-Founder of Blognostics a site for Writers, Poets, Artists, Photographers and Illustrators
to have their works showcased.
Anna,
Is
it considered cruel and unusual to keep him bound and gagged all day?
Hummmmmmmm
….well I would think so unless that is what your lover wants you to do to him. I would suggest highly that you keep
him bound up for no longer than 8 hours at the most. Think about spanking his fanny instead. Lol have fun…
Jennifer,
How
can anal sex be more pleasurable?
First
of all ladies if you are going to have anal sex RELAX otherwise it will hurt like a bitch. Use some sort of sexual lubrication
this will prevent ripping and tearing. Talk about it before hand with you lover. There are many different positions that will
bring both of you pleasure try some of them. Have your lover stimulate you anus with his fingers or his mouth. Try using a
vibrator while you partner is performing oral sex on you. Keep in mind that if you do have anal sex it can be dangerous and
you can get an STD. It is best to be in a monogamous and always ware a condom and latex barriers while having anal sex.
David,
I
have always wondered about the statement “Fuck me Running” Where did it come from and is it possible to do so?
I
have searched everywhere to find the answer to this question for you. A friend of mine suggested it originated in Indiana
but he could not back up his statement and when I went search to find the answer low and behold nor could I.
It has been said it started with vibrators. A woman would insert an extra small vibrator into
her vagina and take off running. Hence the saying “Fuck Me Running”
Tracy,
I made out with a girl the other night while I was out a club. Does this mean
that I am a lesbian now? Katy Perry kissed a girl and she
liked it so why can’t you. French kissing another girl is not uncommon especially when alcohol is involved and inhibitions
are down. Straight women can enjoy and appreciate a women’s body we just tend not to enjoy it the same way men enjoy
us. I would set you self at ease. Kissing a girl does not make you a lesbian.
Jill,
I have the most incredible sex with my lover but the other day he made a comment to me
about the colour of my anal skin being black. Ever since he mentioned this to me I have become self-conscious about what I
look like now. I used to feel beautiful but now I feel dirty and I am considering anal bleaching. Does it work? Girl, get over it! Discolouration
of the skin around you anus is normal there is nothing to feel ashamed of. There are many factors you need to look at. One
being when you are sexually stimulated blood rushes to the surface of the skin causing a purplish brown colour to appear.
Two, it comes with the aging process and is at times hereditary. You have a two options one thing you can do about getting
rid of the dark appearance is try anal bleaching it is a fairly simple process of lighting the color around the anus. Many
exotic dancers and adult films actors and actresses do it for vanity sake. It can be done in an office by a technician or
you can opt to do it in the privacy of your own home. There are a few side effects associated with the process mild itching,
stinging and redness this is due to the active hydrquinone. The other option you have is stop mind fucking yourself get over
it and love you body. Ashley,
I have recent become involved with a man
who is amazing in every aspect. We get along like no other person I have ever been with but, when we are together sexually
there is such a foul smell that emanates from the both of us. This has never happened before with anyone I have been with
and he says the same thing. What in the hell is going on and is there anything that can be done about this? Ashley,
please go and see your Gynecologist immediately. I hate to tell you this but you could very well have a tampon lodged deep
inside of you. If that is the case this would give off the most horrible smells ever. Or the other thing is you may have a
bacterial infection such as “BV” know as Bacterial Vaginosis, which is caused by an imbalance of bacterial flora.
No need to be alarmed it is not an STD and it is curable by antibiotics. Get the smell out girl and resume your sex life odor
free.
Bruce,
My girlfriend likes me to perform oral sex on her, which is fine
but there is a hitch. She likes to put cocaine on her clit while I am eating her out. She says she is more stimulated and
has better orgasms, which again is fine, but my mouth gets numb and dry after awhile and when it comes time for intercourse
I find that I cannot perform and climax. I really enjoy making my girlfriend cum but it is getting to the point that I don’t
want eat her out any more because I am never sexually satisfied. How do I tell her that I don’t want to eat her out
anymore while she has cocaine on her clit? Wow Bruce, First of all I do not condone the use
of drugs but hey if you do then that is cool to.
Cocaine as a sexual stimulant
hummmm well here is how I see it; putting coke on a girl's clit will numb
it as it does you mouth. I would think it would make it harder for a girl to be brought to orgasm. Cocaine is an alkaloid
derived from the coca plant it has been used for centuries anesthetic and is even used in medicine today. Prolonged use of
cocaine in your mouth will cause you serious problems sooner or later it Cocaine mixed with saliva creates an extremely acidic
solution which erodes tooth enamel and exposes the underlying dentine to decay-causing bacteria. I would just tell your cocaine
craving sex-pot no more or you are out the door. Not to mention cocaine use is illegal. Chaline,
Does age difference present a problem in
dating? I am 23 years old and I have been dating older men for sometime now. I just find them mentally more stimulating
and more sexually experienced. Age difference can create some problems in dating and remarks from other people. Since you are
a woman dating an older man there are the stereo-typical comments made that the woman is only with the man because he has
money another words she is considered a gold digger. I don’t know the your mans financial statements or yours
so I am going to steer clear of that on.
I will say as with any relationship
they all have their challenges. Relationships are hard to begin with but if there is a strong connection and you have open
lines of communications I can see why there would be a problem. If there are problems and the two of you can’t see your
way to fix them then you know what? Leave the relationship and find another lover.
As
far as being more sexually experienced I don’t think age factors into that equation. I believe it comes with being comfortable
with your own body and with that of your lover’s body. Want to pleasure your lover more then getting pleasured also
factors in. Philip,
Is there such a thing as masturbating too
much? I am always sexually aroused and never seem to be sexually satisfied. Absolutely
NOT!!! Sorry to say but who ever told you that there was such a thing must have been warned not to do so by some sexually
stifled human being. You might want to consider using a lubricant to avoid chafing. I say if you want to yank you crank then
do so. Enjoy and rest you mind.
Laura,
Why does it feel like I have to pee when
he hits the G spot or the clit? It is really annoying!
The sensation of having to pee while having sex
has nothing to do with having to pee. If you relax you will find yourself having an orgasm and the liquid you release will
be clear and sweet to the taste.
If the sensation of having to pee persists
you might want to try empting your bladder before having sex or possible not having any liquids a few hours before you know
you are going to have intercourse.
Your mans penis may be slamming into to your
already highly sensitive vagina some times the pressure on your bladder can make you feel like you need to use the bathroom.
I would not let it get in your way of having sex or for that matter having an incredible release. If you feel you need to
release and you are comfortable with your man let it go. You will be pleasantly surprised.
I
have a fuuny little bit to tell you. A very close friend of mine was never able to cum with the men in her life. Her boyfriend
asked her what the deal was and she finally admitted that every time she was on the verge of having an orgasm she feels like
she pees herself. He immediately got up from the bed slammed the door to the bathroom started yelling out loud about how foolish
his girlfriend was being. He returned to the bedroom with a shower curtain threw it on top of the bed along with my friend.
His reaction to her was “let the water sports begin”. Needless to say every time they passed a bed bath and beyond
they stopped in to get a new shower curtain.
Laura Just Relax and have fun…. Jack,
My wife wont let me use sexual toys on her. I have tried everything to get her to allow
me to use them but she insists that there is no chance in hell. Jack, the
use of sexual toys during sex is a personal preference if you wife is uncomfortable with it I think you need to respect where
she is coming from. Maybe you need to look at the reasons why you are demanding the use of sexual toy in the bedroom. Do you
feel you do not pleasure her as much as you think? Some thing to take a look at…
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